Maid of Honor Duties
This past weekend I found myself sitting in the tulip garden right outside of the beautiful Biltmore Estate daydreaming about life, work, friends, and family. If you haven’t had a chance to see these tulip gardens, add it to your bucket list because it was one of the most awe-inspiring places. What I would give to be able to sit there everyday and soak in some sunshine and fresh blooms. While I was sitting in the grass, I couldn’t help but think of my best friends, Jordan and Justin, and their upcoming wedding. (YAY!!)
When I was a senior in high school getting ready to attend the University of Houston (GO COOGS!), I was introduced to Justin. Justin was a student at UH about to finish up and head straight into the “real world”. He immediately called his girlfriend at the time, and high school sweetheart, Jordan, who rushed over to where we were to meet me. We became best friends at first sight! The best way I could describe Jordan, is to say that she is the most inspiring, uplifting, and joyful person around. I found out that evening that Jordan was in a sorority at UH, and I remember going home that night and making sure all of the remaining paperwork I had for sorority recruitment was ready – because I wanted to join her sorority.
That fall, I began my first semester of college, and became a member of Delta Gamma. Later that semester, I found out that Jordan had become my “big sister”, and I was so excited. We spent as much time as we could together until she graduated that spring and joined Justin in the real world. Over the past six years that I have known them, they have shown me nothing but love and friendship – and I know I would not be the person I am today without those two in my life.
Last year, Jordan and Justin sat me down and asked me to be the Maid of Honor at their wedding, and I was an instant ball of tears. Overjoyed, I jumped up and gave them the biggest hug and we celebrated the rest of the evening with a bottle of wine and some great laughs.
That was a very long introduction to my post, but I felt it was necessary to give you all some insight (it also was great practice for writing MOH speech!) This week, I want to tell you all about some of the duties that come with being a Maid or Matron of Honor. (Future brides, if you are reading – feel free to share with your MOH!)
The job is honestly very simple. As a MOH, it is your responsibility to take care of the bride in any way she may need throughout her engagement, as well as on the big day! You are her right-hand gal, and she is depending on you to help her during this busy and exciting time in her life.
There are also many “tasks” expected of the MOH to complete, but they are fun and exciting! My involvement helps take some of the many tasks off her plate too and that is a wonderful thing to be able to do for a friend. Here are some of those MOH tasks:
· Plan and host the bridal shower
· Help shop for dresses (both bride and bridesmaid!)
· Coordinate any bridesmaids' duties
o Make sure everyone orders their dresses on time
o Help them with the scheduling of dress fittings
o Give them all of the details for any pre-wedding festivities
· Be there for your bride if she needs anything during the planning process
o Offer to help her with any tasks she may have
o Lend an ear – be there for her when she needs to just talk it out
· Plan the bachelorette party
· Prepare and give a toast to the bride and groom
While that is not necessarily a complete list, it is a great place to start. As long as you stay true to yourself, and are the best friend that you can be – you will have the happiest bride.
It is truly such an honor to be someone’s Maid of Honor. Although there may be many responsibilities involved (time, emotional, and financial), holding the role of MOH is also exciting and rewarding. Enjoy this special time with your best friend, because before you know it, the wedding will be finished and you will be helping her unpack from the honeymoon, while she tells you about her amazing marriage so far.
XO - Nicole