Tackling Overwhelm & Stress

Isn't it so odd that the word "stress" so often goes hand in hand with the phrase "planning a wedding"? A wedding, arguably one of the happiest occasions in any given lifetime, in theory, shouldn't evoke feelings of stress. And yet... how often do you hear a bride or a mother of the bride say "I'm so stressed". What a heartbreaking shame! What to do about it? 

Stress is a part of life. As much as we all try to avoid it, and as deeply as we are sure that stress is unhealthy and unhelpful, we all experience it in different ways and at different times. 

So if you're a bride, a groom, or a parent of a bride or groom, and you're feeling overwhelmed by wedding planning stress. Take heart and know this: whatever it is that's causing you stress, however big it feels, there's so much joy at the end of it.

Nancy Ray Photography

Nancy Ray Photography

Fight to let joy come to the forefront, and give stress a kick to the curb. Because here's the thing... it just isn't worth it. These months of the engagement period are just a blink in a lifetime and they fly by fast. So fast, in fact, that you don't want to look back on it all with regret. You also don't want to be standing in front of your loved ones on your wedding day, swapping vows with your beloved, and feel a nagging sense of irritation because you wish you had done something differently, planned something better, or worst of all - planned a different wedding than the one you did.

I love this little gem from Mr. Rogers: (yes, that Mr. Rogers): 

In times of stress, the best thing we can do for each other is to listen with our ears and our hearts and to be assured that our questions are just as important as our answers.

Ditch the anxiety and make it a priority to do so, using whatever means you have available. If you haven't hired a full-service planner, or don't have the budget to do so - I recommend booking a consulting session with a seasoned professional. Even just a 1-2 hour session may be worth it's weight in gold. Ask questions. Get answers and guidance. Help set a good course for planning the wedding sans stress. 

If you're reading this and you're a wedding industry pro feeling the stress of a wedding season and the magnitude of the workload that comes along with it, you also need to make it a priority to ditch the stress. When the going gets tough, remember that it is a privilege to do this work. You chose to serve your clients and you chose the wedding industry because it means the world to you and because it brings you joy. So shake it off and grab onto the joy with a fierce grip. And if you need help gaining perspective or figuring out your processes to streamline the workload and shove stress to the curb - then my advice is the same: seek professional help. 

Do you want to book a hour of consulting time? Let us know and we'll be in touch to see how we can help! 


Until next time,